Argh! Evil has a name and it’s called Internet Dating. I’ve seen the “successes” – friends who have found love and are now happily married/child-bearing/loved up. I’ve also heard the tales of woe, the tears of rejection and read the abysmal profiles. It’s not something I can rule out all together though – it’s becoming the norm. And if that is where all the good men are hiding – I need to check it out.
I’ve toyed with Internet Dating once before – almost 18 months ago. That spawned 2 major incidents – The Texter and The Clayton’s BF. Let’s start with the former…
The Texter is HOT. Very much the type of guy I would pass in the street and be distracted by. A bad boy with tatts and a blue collar job. We share the same interests in music and movies etc. The Texter and I have NEVER met. We started sending messages in August of last year. He dropped off the planet in around September – which I didn’t mind because by then I had already been distracted by the Clayton’s BF. Then when the Clayton’s BF and I were in one of our “down times” he turned up again – a random text from an unknown number (of course I deleted his number!) and he’s been back in my life ever since. We go from texting daily to texting once a fortnight back to texting daily. We’ve talked about meeting but right now I’m in a place where I’m happy with just the texting. My friends disapprove – mainly because some of his texts border on the lewd side (and yes I’ve been sent sexts) but he can also be quite caring and thoughtful.
Then there’s the Clayton’s BF (the boyfriend you have when you don’t have a bf). He was my trial date. I agreed to go out with him so I could practice first dates. It had been a long time since I’d been on a first date – and we seemed to click when chatting. So we met – and we clicked in real life. First date – Sunday, Second date – Monday, Third date – Tuesday. Did I mention he is my parent’s dream of a son-in-law prospect? Clean cut, good job, same political persuasion. Things were going really really well – until the start of the dreaded sporting season. This guy was crazy for his sport – trainings, games, board meetings – which left little time for moi! I called it off after a few months citing “I dont have to be your first priority but I’d like to be a priority”. And that should have been it. But a few months later – we saw each other again. And since then we’ve been “seeing each other” casually for a while. Now I understand the FWB thing – that makes sense to me but he took things beyond that. Nights in nice hotels, cooking me dinners, suggesting weekends away, wanting to meet a good friend I talked about. Which made me wonder – did he want more? I swore I’d bring it up time and time again – see whether we did want to pursue something more. Time and time I chickened out – I didn’t want to pull it on him before he left for a 2 month European adventure, I didn’t want to throw it at him just after he returned, it wasn’t fair to do that to him when he’d just lost his job…. but you will be proud to know I finally brought it up. A few weeks back I bravely announced that “I can’t keep seeing you because I like you too much” and that my friends was the end of that!
So as much as my 2 internet dating “interactions” have been a little odd – I figure I should give it another go. It could prove amusing.
Tags: FWB, internet dating, The Claytons BF, The Texter
